Alone?

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The stereotypes that often come with leading a single life are generally categorized into one group: loneliness. It is so often assumed that those who have not yet found that special person who makes the world a little brighter are experience those god-awful waves of loneliness. In reality, there is a magnificent difference between being lonely and being alone.

Author's note

Hey Guys! It’s been a while. So if I sound sloppy, I’m sorry. The subject I’m about to talk about today have been on my mind for a very long time, but I never was able to talk about it. Partly because I was scared and it was hard for me back then, but also because I never felt so strongly about it as now. In the past few months, lot of things happened and changed. I’ve lost people I’ve loved, got into trouble, lost trust in people who were close to me, been blamed of things I never imagined would happen and so on. Today, I finally decided to share how I feel about everything and why I feel that way. And I felt like many can relate to me too. So, hope you find in interesting and understand its meaning.��
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2. The Diference

The difference is being alone can be fun, even helpful. You get time to actually enjoy the little things of life and value yourself as an individual. But the feeling of alone, now that’s different. Feeling alone can be hard for even where you have room full of people at your service yet you still feel empty. You want to scream and cry and express but no one is there to her you or understand. That’s hard. I thought I was fine with that too. But I never lie so I won’t do it here either. You smile, but you wanna cry. You talk, but you wanna be quiet. You pretend like you’re happy, but you aren’t. Lonely is not being alone, it’s the feeling that no one cares. That feeling when you’re not necessarily sad, but you just feel really empty. Sometimes you just need someone to tell you you’re not as terrible as you think you are. Let me tell you this if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them. Being alone with your feelings is the worst because you have nowhere to run. They’re here, dancing in your mind and all you can do is handle. Sometimes I feel like I just want to be alone. But what I actually want is someone to just hold me and tell me everything will be okay.  Loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you. The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly. There are days when solitude is a heady wine that intoxicates you with freedom, others when it is a bitter tonic, and still others when it is a poison that makes you beat your head against the wall.

 

                                                            

I think it’s very healthy, to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone. You need to know HOW to be alone and not be defined by another person. We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone. “I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you’re competing with my comfort zones.” – Horacio Jones Some steps need to be taken alone. It’s the only way to really figure out where you need to go and who you need to be. Your life will get better when you realize it’s better to be alone than to chase people who don’t really care about you. Being alone has a power that very few people can handle.

There’s a saying, “Never fuck with someone who is not afraid to be alone. You will lose every single time.”

And some wise people said…

“When you have nobody you can make a cup of tea for, when nobody needs you, that’s when I think life is over.” – Audrey Hepburn

“Some people can’t stand being alone. I love solitude and silence. But when I come out of it, I’m a regular talking machine. It’s all or nothing for me.” – Celine Dion

“Loneliness is my least favorite thing about life. The thing that I’m most worried about is just being alone without anybody to care for or someone who will care for me.” – Anne Hathaway

“The best part about being alone is that you really don’t have to answer to anybody. You do what you want.” – Justin Timberlake

“Life could be wonderful if people would leave you alone.” – Charlie Chaplin

“As I get older I’m more and more comfortable being alone.” – Sienna Miller

“If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn that being alone does not mean being unhappy. The world is full of plenty of interesting and enjoyable things to do and people who can enrich your life.” – Michael Josephson

The stereotypes that often come with leading a single life are generally categorized into one group: loneliness. It is so often assumed that those who have not yet found that special person who makes the world a little brighter are experience those god-awful waves of loneliness. In reality, there is a magnificent difference between being lonely and being alone. Being lonely is that kind of aching that resonates in your chest. That dull, constant feeling that follows you around all day long. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing or whom you’re with, it’s impossible to shake that feeling.  Typically, these feelings are most prominent after recently losing that person who made your world a little brighter. Being lonely comes with so many side effects: memories, insomnia, and confusion. Loneliness encapsulates the best parts of your life and forces you to notice their profound absence. Loneliness makes you wonder why—why you? Why can’t you catch a break, why haven’t you had a simple stroke of luck? Loneliness is the 3am thoughts that haunt your dreams. Loneliness is that song on the radio that you have to turn off the second it comes on. But being alone is a different situation completely. Being alone is a state of being; loneliness is a state of mind. When you’re alone you’re forced to realize all the things you don’t have, sure, but you’re also forced to realize all the things about yourself that you couldn’t when you spent your days memorizing someone else. Of course, there are those times when being alone crosses paths with being lonely. Being alone can be the most empowering experience of your life. If you let the loneliness consume you, you’re going to lose that rare chance to figure yourself out. You can always find company in yourself.

“You’re not dead, but not alive either. You’re just a ghost with a beating heart.”

“Being alone is an art, embrace it.”

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